Sam’s Perspective: Life is a Journey

Too often to do we go about life and forget to include our closest ones in our thoughts and emotions. I know this first hand. I have a very analytical brain and so this precludes me to always doing my own math equations in my head to analyze any type of situation.  Too often does this help me in problem solving any number of scenarios.  I believe any challenge is solvable if you know how to get the answer.  I could honestly go on about this for some time. What I really want to articulate to everyone is my thoughts, as they sometimes come out on paper, why I believe relationships can thrive and survive if only a simple method of what is called communication is involved. Now, as I write this, Cat and I are and always have been awesome. We communicate at all times and I would like to brag as we have never had a real fight in our entire relationship. But, I do feel that I navigate thru things at times differently than she does. As do most relationships.  I have recently, for almost a year or more, been trying this new approach to things were I try to remain positive and forthcoming about the good things in my life.  I try at all times to mitigate any type of negative thought process as I know what that can lead to……NOTHING!!  Am I successful at this all the time? No. Do I constantly work on this? Yes.  I hit a wall about a year ago that I started seeing that life is way too short and allowing negatives thoughts, emotions, and anything else will not add any value to your life but subtract any type of good from your life.

It is true that I fight day in and day out with the outcomes of war. I see explosion, gun fire, blood and hurt. This has lead me down a path of nothing good but reliving moments that take me away from the “now” and leads back to  “then.”  If we always see the past you will never be able to see the present and all the good that surrounds you. I once was so far in the past that I tried to terminate the present. I will not elaborate on that but if you get it, then you understand.   Jim Carrey once said , “So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it”.  It was practical for me to seek the dark in disguising my fear because I did not want to sound or look crazy. I was doing the exact definition of crazy in that I sought the same things and did the same things expecting a different outcome.  My life had no meaning and I was searching for something I believed I could not obtain.

I share all this with you because I want you all to see some of my journey as that might help you understand where I am today.  How I am trying to live now is through positivity and hope. I try my best to minimize the things that don’t matter much.  We remember the things that made an impression on us, we don’t remember the things that don’t matter. In years to come I will not remember watching certain TV shows or walking the dogs. I will remember that time my son and my wife played a card game and my son spanked us both bad.  If I get negative about the water being all used up and there is no hot water, then that might set the tone for my day. I do not want to give the temperature of water the reason for having a bad day.  I challenge you all to look at the small, minuscule things in your life that you all get upset about and see if they really mattered in the first place. I teach this all to my Veterans at the VA.  How do you start your day can and a lot of times does lead to how your day will be. If you start the day by complaining about lack of sleep, then you will have a negative outlook on the rest of the day. As my sergeant use to say in the Army, “you can sleep when you are dead.”

So, I realize that I am all over the place in the writing.  So let’s bring it all together. I believe relationships get into trouble because both parties are not sharing how they view simple things like life. I know right, real minuscule. Haha. I have not shared to my wife how I want to view things and I why I downplay some things when she sees them in a different way. She is not right and I am not right. We both see things differently. There is nothing wrong with this. The fault goes on both of us though for not relaying how or why we treat things the way we do. If I get mad at the dogs all the time but she deals with them in a calm and collective manner, it just means that she is approaching the same scenario in a different more positive way (this is just an example). We as adults, need to communicate how we see the world and how we are going to respond to it. My approach as of right now is to go at it in as much positivity as I can. What will you do to live a more fulfilled life. Remember, life isn’t about money, seeing the 7 wonders of the world or even about how we look to others, it is about what can you take from this world in a manner that will bring you happiness and who are you going to share that with.

Here is something I have been saying to myself for over a year now almost every single day.

“ I have a roof over my head, food in my stomach, clothes on my back and people that love me!!”

Can you tell me in the scheme of things, what are the other things that matter? In this vast universe, try to bring it down to a smaller world and work on you and what really matters in life.

“I’m making a conscious choice to see challenges as beneficial so that I can deal with them in the most productive way”– Jim Carrey

Today’s post comes straight from Sam. He was busy working in the office this morning and I had no idea what he was doing until he came out and said, “I wrote something. You can use it for the blog if you like.” <3 I love when he feels comfortable to share what is on his mind and heart.