I read a lot about language, and like most of you, use language on a daily basis. Communication is a a big part of my job. Communication is a big part of marriage, or any relationship. And, the language we use with others is important.
Sometimes the emotions we have (facial expressions for me are the worst) can get the best of us. We may not be very loving with our words or actions, and I have found in the role of caregiver loving language and tone is very important.
Love gets me out of bed every morning. Love is the driving force in the relationship I have with Sam and our children. Love is what wakes me up in the night to make sure Sam is okay. Love encourages me.
We all love differently, and we all look at love in a different way. Love is meant to be kind—so think about this—if we all had loving words to say, and were kind, wouldn’t the world seem like a better place? We can use words of appreciation and encouragement. Sometimes that can be very difficult. Just remember to always be kind. Even when it is the last thing you want to do.
Listening to your loved one when they are speaking is so, so important. Do you look people in the eye when you speak to them? If you don’t, work on that, to show the one you are talking with that you are really listening. Make quality time to sit and talk. Yes, you read that correctly. Sit and talk. That’s without the phone, without distraction–looking each other in the eye and really talking. Key. Sam and I like to do this at dinner, and we also like to have a little time when we can just relax and chat about anything and everything. That is love.
Sometimes accepting love is hard. Knowing that you deserve love and happiness-hard. Sam and I had some trust issues. We didn’t want to ruin the friendship we had, and we didn’t want to be hurt because of love. One of the best gifts you can give is love–kindness—friendship. I’m so lucky to have friends that I can meet up with for coffee, have lunch/dinner with, call, text—taking time to be present and show appreciation–that is love.
Isn’t there a song or phrase that “love makes the world go round?” Maybe we should practice more of that, showing love, appreciating the love we have around us, because even in the difficult times, love really does help–love is all you may need.
I love this guy and our family!! So glad he’s my partner in crime!
It’s nice to know someone who writes about love, communication and appreciation, actually practices the art of caring on a daily basis.
In these tense times in which we live, it’s nice to be reminded that our words to others ought to be spoken with sincere regard for the other person.