The word determined can be defined as having a strong feeling that you are going to do something and you will not allow anyone or anything to stop you; no difficulties will stand in your way.
Sam is determined to finish strong this semester in grad school.
This week we have been determined to get our work done and survive. Grad school can be challenging. I spent many nights working on papers, researching, reading, add into that mix grading papers, and also being with my family. I thought I would never graduate. I had the best cheerleader in Sam…encouraging me, reading my work, talking me out of quitting or giving up…he was determined to help me succeed and finish strong.
Sam has been working every night this week on his paper and studying for his class. This is a big deal. Normally we are in bed by 9:30, 10:00 every night…but Sam’s bed time has been a lot later due to studying and working on his final.
Why am I making such a big deal about grad school, studying, and determination?
Imagine having a TBI (traumatic brain injury) that has caused you to have little to no short-term memory. Think about how often you would have to make notes for yourself, put reminders in your phone, set alarms, ask your significant other to remind you to do something. Imagine trying to read 25+ pages for a class, and then having what you read sort of disappear or come back to you in bits and pieces. With little to no short term memory, studying can be a challenge.
Sam makes notes, he highlights sections in textbooks, and then sometimes he types the notes up to review them…anything to remember or make studying easier.
I have watched him grow into a very determined person in two years. When I first met Sam he was outgoing, but yet I could tell there were times that he may have felt like giving up. He wasn’t a fan of working 40 hours a week and taking classes for his Master’s in between. He wasn’t a fan of going into the office to study for finals, a test, or working on a paper. But, he was determined to finish that degree. I admire him for his work ethic and for his determination to succeed despite having some setbacks.
Sam’s undergrad was interrupted a few times by deployment orders. He would start a semester, get orders, and have to leave. When he would come back, he tried to get back into the swing of school. Imagine how challenging that could be–moving from one community to the other—the military community always looming, but yet needing to fit into the college community and less structured environment of a college campus.
A semester would begin, and deployment orders would come again.
Three times he was shifted between two worlds.
When we talked about Sam applying for a service dog through This Able Veteran, he was determined to work on processing his trauma and getting a hold on PTSD. When he entered the three week trauma resiliency program, he was determined. He has worked hard to accomplish so much after three deployments and being medevac’d out of Afghanistan. He graduated with his bachelor’s degree, he works in Behavior Health at the VA, and he is working on completing his Master’s degree.
He’s one of the most determined people I know. I know that he can do anything he puts his mind to, with the love and support from his family, and of course, sweet Memphis.